Divorce

Last Saturday I helped a friend move out of the house she had shared with her husband for the last several years. They are seperated and all but legally divorced. What made the moving so hard was the fact he was there along with two children they had together. I was very uncomfortable, to say the least. I could just see him going into a bedroom or closet and coming out with a SKS rifle, shooting us all, then himself.
He never became physically violent, but several times the couple exchanged heated words, spewing venom back and forth. It brought back bad memories from my childhood, of moving hearedly from place to place. It made me sick in the pit of my stomach, thinking of those boys remembering this day for the rest of their lives.
She had no one to help her move her stuff out, and he never lifted a finger to help to us. It really made me wonder, how do two people go from loving each other enough to get married and have children, to hating each other so badly they can't stand to be in the same room together?
You have to guard your relationships, just like you guard your stuff when you leave the house or when you lock your car doors in town. Where and when did things go wrong? People do not just wake up hating each other, it has to go from love to hate slowly, I would think.
I know this blog doesn't have much to do with agriculture, but a messy divorce can cause you to loose the farm quickly, then everyone suffers. What is the answer? I wish I knew. Preventative maintenance, just like servicing your tractor or pick-up truck could go a long way in keeping your marriage working properly. Counseling, both before the wedding and periodically after should help a great deal. Is a prenuptial agreement planning to fail or a fail safe plan to keep the family farm in the family? I don't know the answer to that. You will have to figure that out on your own. Good luck and do everything you can to keep your love alive.